“There is no such thing as absolute security; it’s a matter of degree. Providing security is often managing insecurity.”
- D. Caldwell.
When I was younger, on some Saturday mornings, my best friend and I would put on our comfortable shoes and take walks in the residential areas located near where we lived. We would walk among the houses and look over the hedges, into windows and try to figure out the lives of the people in these homes. We would daydream about the future and how it would all turn out. There was a lot of, “When I grow up I’ll have this and that..” or “My kid will be named Lance… and if it’s a girl, Linda.” Then, she and I would share long detailed stories about all the couples we knew and how much they loved one another. These stories would keep us busy almost all the way home, and it’s a long walk – almost an hour.
On a trip back home last year, my best friend and I decided to take one of these walks, for old times sake. We are definitely past the age of looking into people’s windows but we were still sharing stories, plenty of stories about all of these people that we knew, the people who we thought were so happy with each other and who had all the things that we thought we wanted and it saddened me to hear that in most cases, people had cheated on each other and broken up. It was even more depressing to hear about the ones that had had children together but were now only communicating through lawyers.
While my best friend and I have similar views on love and how it should be, I do not believe that it will become a reality for me. And if it ever were to happen, I doubt that it is what I want. After all, the success stories are few and far between.
Most give up when love fails to meet their impossible demands. And for the very few that have managed to slip through the eye of the needle, and everything is happening according to the master plan, I suspect that they will spend the rest of their lives defending and protecting this reality – terrified that something or someone will come and ruin it.
The complications in love seem to make it difficult for people to appreciate the beauty of everything else that is happening in life.
It is said that time will teach you a good number of lessons and I must say that with time, my view on love has evolved. It is now nowhere near romantic, at least not in the traditional sense of the word. I believe that because a relationship is more or less an agreement between two independent minds, it is better to be clear about what you are both willing to give and what you are both willing to give up than to refrain from what you want simply because it is what people in a committed relationship are expected to do. Sometimes, it is only when two people have the freedom to stumble a bit that they fall head over heels.
Stay Fabulous 
/Flygirl
Its also important to keep believing in that fairy tale kinda Love because if said agreement has terms and conditions then lika any agreement, there will be ways around it. Stay fly. Peace.